Removes the logic which allows private broadcasting to connect via tor exit relays.
This mitigates the bug noted in #35319 , simplifies the logic, and is "less surprising" to me as I thought that's how it worked before.
The proxy logic could still be fixed/removed/??? but left it in place for smallest changeset that raises assurance on what we're shipping.
Proposed alternative to #35319 , at least for backport